Jun 28 2008

I’ve Joined The Money Life Network!

Published by Emily under Uncategorized

I am thrilled and humbled to have been invited to join The Money Life Network.

I am stealing a blurb about the network from Hank at My Investing Blog because, well, he’s all eloquent and well spoken, and I am not.

The Money Life Network of blogs is a group of personal finance bloggers who have banded together to bring you great content designed to help you improve your finances and increase your quality of life.

We have common goals, but we come from diverse backgrounds and unique perspectives. In addition our blogs tend to focus on different aspects of financial life which we think will keep things interesting.

Give us a shot and subscribe to our group RSS feed, and we promise to work hard to bring you posts on a daily basis that you’ll find entertaining, informative and enlightening.

The other network members are

My Investing Blog
Free From Broke
Bible Money Matters
Sense To Save
Prime Time Money
Milk Your Money

I hope you’ll take the time to check their sites out.

You can also subscribe to the network’s aggregate feed here.

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Jun 27 2008

I Quit Reading Better Homes And Gardens

Published by Emily under perspective

This post was originally published at Life Nurturing Education and Renae was kind enough to offer it up for me to post here while I am out of town. Please check out her site and if you like what you see, subscribe to her feed

The beautiful houses in glossy pages of magazines urge me to decorate. Curtains hide a few cracks, but they don’t cover bare concrete floor or holes in the wall. Our 1950s fixer-upper does not resemble Better Homes and Gardens or Pottery Barn. I am learning to accept it. Houses are just sticks and bricks embellished with fabric. Homes are made of something else entirely.

Home reminds me of frosting Christmas cookies with Mom, learning about car engines from Dad, and laughing during games of Monopoly with my brother. Love shines brightly even in misty memories of hateful words and wounded hearts. In family, hope endures and forgiveness stretches to cover most transgressions. These relationships forge early ideas of love for good or bad.

My children’s concept of home is forming in their hearts now. What am I communicating to them? That we live in a “fixer-upper full of roaches” as my son’s parody of Madeline stated, or that this is a place for us to live in peace creating sweet memories.

More than a remodeled kitchen, I want laughter to resound off the walls.

More than pristine flooring, I want peace to reign.

More than new furniture, I want love to engulf us.

Our house is far from finished, but our home is quite comfortable.

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Jun 26 2008

Discovering Needs Through Elimination

Published by Emily under rambling

For the past 10 days, I have been a girl in motion. I spent 3 days in a car driving North. Then 2 days staying with family and visiting friends. Followed by a train ride to Toronto and a weekend with friends. I am finally, finally settling in to my vacation with my kids and parents at the cottage. It’s been amazing and I enjoy the hustle and bustle and the change of scenery. I love that my days are mixed up and there is no routine. I love that I am completely on an escape from my regular day to day at home.

There is one thing that I have discovered through this past week and a half of upheaval from that day to day though. I need to write. I was without computer for a week and now that I am here and have my laptop, things are just happening. Vacation is happening. Moments are happening. Things are busy, we’re doing new things, I am showing my children the beauty of my favorite place in the world and immersing myself and them in the experience of this place.

That means, however, that I have little time to sit at my computer and get out the many rambling jumbled thoughts that are swirling in my brain each day. I find myself with my notebook at my side just so I can jot down moments, thoughts, ideas, so that I won’t forget them tomorrow. I have discovered that I don’t write because I want to or have nothing better to do. I write because I need to. By eliminating my means and mode of writing that I need it. It is part of me, it’s who I am and it is very important and an integral part of my personality. Each night as I’ve been falling asleep, I have felt a slight void because I wasn’t able to sit down that day and write.

When I think back on the last couple of years that have laid the framework for the life I live today and who I am becoming, I realize that so much of who I am and what I value and have found authentic for my life has come about by eliminating things and then discovering that I don’t need them. Not only, don’t I need them, but I am better off without them. So I am learning that it’s an important part of my life to learn what is truly me and what I truly value and what is really a part of me to remove it from my life and see what happens. Getting rid of old stuff that I don’t use anymore is a quick and easy way to visibly see how many things are around me that I just don’t need. I have yet to trek off to Goodwill with boxes of stuff from around my house and miss any of the stuff.

By minimizing my life, making things simpler and more bare, it is easier to see the things around me that I need or don’t need. By removing things, I can then search inside myself whether I really need it or not. It seems to be a decent way for me to have discovered the things that really matter. Take them away and see how it feels. If it feels good, fantastic. If it feels bare, empty and there is a void, put it back.

As for my writing, I know it won’t ever truly go away, because it’s part of me.

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Jun 26 2008

Tips For Teaching Your Children To Save Money

Published by Emily under finances

This is a guest post from Miranda Marquit. She edits information on debt consolidation for DestroyDebt.com and writes about personal finances for Yielding Wealth.

One of the most valuable lessons children can learn is how to save money. This is a lesson that is not taught in schools, so it falls upon parents to make sure that their children learn about saving. I didn’t start teaching my son about money — really talking about it — until this past year, after he turned five. But I know some people who start talking about it when their kids are as young as three. It’s up to you when you start, but the earlier your kids start developing a habit of saving, the better. Here are some things that you can do to help your child learn about the importance of saving:

Give your child an allowance.

Choose an allowance that is appropriate for your child’s age, and give it regularly. I like to have a regular amount that I give my son that is not tied to chores (regular things he is expected to do — for free — as part of the family). But I also have more advanced and difficult tasks that he can do to earn a “bonus.” This allowance is the first experience many children have with managing their money. Start out by requiring that your children set aside at least 10% for savings.

Talk about the importance of saving.

When I spoke with my son about saving, I explained that some things cost too much money to pay for immediately. Sometimes we have to save up for what I want. Months earlier, we had allowed him to earn TV watching time, and labeled his movies with numbers that corresponded to length. When he earned enough “TV coupons” he could redeem them. I asked him if he remembered what he did when he wanted to watch the Incredibles. He thought about it, and told me that he looked at how many TV coupons he needed and then made a plan to set aside his coupons until he had enough to “buy” the TV time. I told him saving money was kind of like that. It’s setting aside money so that we have it when it is needed.

I also showed him, using actual money, how much he had left over after putting in the savings (and the donation for our church). “See?” I said. “Even after putting some aside, you have this many left.” He could see that the money set aside for savings was much less than what he got to keep to spend (or save up for a specific toy).

We also had a brief talk about interest, and how when you put money in the bank, the bank pays you to keep it there. He thought that was pretty cool.

Have a specific place to put the money.

We had a jar for my son’s savings. Putting the savings in a separate container encourages children to think about the separateness of their savings. When we opened a kids’ savings account at the local credit union, they gave him a cow bank (for his “moo”-la) for his savings. Now we make a big production of putting the money in this special place. When he has filled the cow bank, we take the money out, count it together and then go to the bank with his passbook. Having children involved at each step also develops in them an interest in engaging with their finances.

Create savings goals.

In addition to having a savings account, children should also see how savings goals can set for a variety of items. One way to do this is to talk about a specific toy that your child wants. Cut a picture out an put it on the wall so that he or she can be reminded that saving up is necessary. Make it clear that this type of saving up is different from the money that goes into the savings account. That money is for big things, later down the road, like college or living in a nice place “when I get old and want to relax all day.” Savings goals money is for smaller things that you want, but need to wait a little while for.

Another thing you can do is cut the picture into pieces, and write an amount on the back of each. If the item costs $15, cut the picture into 5 pieces with $3 on the back. Every time your child reaches another $3 set aside, put a piece of the picture up. When the picture is complete, take the money and go buy the item. I like to let my son pay for things he buys with his own money. (We do count up the coins and have them exchanged for bills first. But this is part of the fun.)

Set an example.

This is very important. Show your children that you save up, too. When we visit my husband’s family in New York, we put out a family “fun things to do in New York” jar. We show our son that everyone puts money in — even mom and dad save up. This also instills in him a sense of ownership of our vacation as well, and lets him see how we can all work together. We also tell him when we are putting money into savings, and I take him with me to the bank regularly so that he can that I am putting money in there. This is much easier for a five-year-old than trying to explain how direct deposit works.

If you start at an early age to help you child learn about saving, and the importance of saving up for things rather than just buying them, it will help him or her develop a habit that can be used throughout life.

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Jun 25 2008

My Life, Not According To The Plan

Published by Emily under perspective

Hey all! I am barely here at my own blog in real time at the moment and have guest posts running but I found time to squeeze in a guest post of my own while my buddy Alison is on vacation too. So head on over to This Wasn’t In The Plan and check out my post that is up over there today. You can read about My Life, Not According To The Plan.

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